Are your kids way better at using their phones than you? Well of course they are! Sorry, this is the world of technology, no way getting around it. So get on the band wagon! I didn’t just wait to learn technology once my kids were grown. I realized early on that if I wanted my kids to keep me in the loop that I better be able to send text messages. Yes it is important that our kids know how to call you and talk to you on the phone and write and mail a letter and learn all the ways that communication is possible I will tell you what worked for me. One of the best things I did was always have the same type of phone as my children did when they were teenagers, and now adults. Easier to do when you are sharing a plan. The best reason to have the same phone, is that they could coach me, and keep Me up to date. I feel SO smart texting my kids and sending pictures and imoji’s
A lot of the trick is to be interested in learning your phone for you not because you want to stalk them. Even if it’s true! If they think you are having a phone so you can be in their business then they won’t help you. That’s more for then they are on their own, (kinda). You can have more rules when they are minors. 😉 My kids always want me to get the latest apps!
like Snapchat? Really? “That’s just too silly, I’m too old for that!” But they told me it would be fun. Well okay then, what’s the harm? Now THAT has been fun actually! I think they like that fact that I accept their generation and am willing to try new things. It has been fun to keep up with them and sending them fun messages with emojis or its a great way to compliment them and send your love their way without them having to respond. The next part about it is that I have been able to communicate with my younger grandchildren by sending little videos or pictures, especially to the ones that live on the other side of the country! That’s another blog I will be writing about. Long distance relationships with grand kids. I just think if they move away and have your grandchildren, that they should be grounded! So you finally get grandchildren and they move?? What’s that about? I mean really, where ARE their priorities!! 😉 Okay, yeah I know… it’s their life.
Seriously, I have never seen so many dandelions as I have this year! It’s been raining so much we haven’t been able to treat the weeds since there needs to be a few days of dry weather. I guess the sad thing is that instead of being out their trying to get rid of all those pretty little “blow a wish” feather dandelions, I’ll have to play with my grand kids! Why? Because I might go outside to work in the yard and get a phone call, or in my case, a text message, asking me if my grand kids can come over. Gee, well, let me think about it… YES! Do I worry about what the neighbors will think about my yard or why I haven’t taken care of all those pretty 🙄 dandelions? No, not really, because that’s how you “stop and smell the roses”, right? Stop and smell the roses is an idiom meaning: “To become calm and reflect upon the finer or more enjoyable aspects of life”.
What will the grand kids remember? We go to Grandma’s and she plays with us! Or will they remember that Grandma is too busy to play when we come over. That is something to think about!
It’s about looking at the whole picture! When your a grandma, you have more time then when you had your own little children, so now it the time to enjoy the little ones! What a great gift to give, your time.
Do you want to be the best parent and grand parent ever? That’s a silly question! However I want to share some ideas that will help you on this awesome journey! Sure, we’ve been parents, we’ve been there done that, right? And yes, we do have a lot to offer! But how much do our children want offered? That’s the fine line we all get to figure out based on our family dynamics. This illustrates what I’m talking about…
I’ll explain the wood high chair. I’m sure it was a beautiful high chair when it was new. So, the back story of why the picture…When I became a new mother, I had in my mind that I wanted to get one of those high chairs with the plastic tray that goes all the way around and holds the food and spills and is easy to clean. But, my well meaning in-laws decided that I should have a really nice high chair that was like a piece of furniture. So they showed up one day with this beautiful wood high chair. My heart sunk because I was so happy that they would get us a high chair, but so sad that it was a high chair that is NOT practical at all. What was I suppose to do, say “no thanks” ummm no. So I gracefully accepted the gift and used it even though it wasn’t what I had dreamed of.
So based on this little story, I wanted to explain why talking to our children that become new parents, is really important. Communicating with them and asking questions, questions, like how you can help them. Asking what is important to them to purchase themselves, so they can pick out exactly what they want. Making sure that when you find something or have an idea for them. that you always check with them and make sure they are okay with you getting them something. It can be a real help financially to purchase bigger items for them, but still very important to talk about it with them, so you aren’t stepping on toes. They will appreciate your consideration!
Just a small example, when our daughter had her first baby girl, I knew that it was a thrill for her to do certain things for her daughter. I always checked with her about what she needed or wanted unless I already knew, or it was something little that would be for fun. Then one day when her baby was old enough to wear a swimming suit, she asked me not to get her a swimming suit. I was really glad she told me that, because it was important to her, to pick out her first swimming suit. I knew that it would be, but sometimes those little things might be big things to our new parenting kids. I’m not saying to be paranoid about giving your kids things or doing fun things, I’m just saying that it’s important to keep that communication open so that everyone can be on the same page and enjoy this awesome journey together! It’s more important to have a good relationship with your kids than to indulge yourself going overboard getting them things. Yes, it’s so fun when we see something or don’t resist going to the baby sections of stores because we are so excited to have a grand baby!